Big sister Nora,
I'm not sure if you will understand everything in this letter right now but you're very smart so I have a feeling you will.
I need you to know how important you are to me. To be perfectly honest, I never planned on being a step mother. In fact, I never planned on being a mother at all. But here I am with a 9 year old step daughter who is brilliant, caring, and kind, as well as my own spunky little adorable 1 year old who is your little sister, Jincy.
Do you remember when we first met? I wonder if you were as nervous as I was. As we loaded up and headed down the interstate I looked in the back seat to see an innocent little girl who was a little bit uncomfortable and maybe even a little scared. At that moment God opened a place in my heart for you and I couldn't help but to climb back there with you and do everything in my power to make you smile, laugh, and know that you were in good hands.
By the time we made it to our hotel it seemed like we had known each other all along and were having so much fun together. It made my heart happy as you brushed my hair and let me pray with you before bed time. It comforted me to comfort you on the plane to Atlanta the next day as you held my hand and laid your head on my lap.
You were easy to fall in love with because you were so pleasant and we had so much in common. Our love for animals, especially Nola and Pip, the way we both like to play dress up and paint our nails, and even the way we agree that daddy puts too much jelly on our PB & J sandwiches. I even enjoyed the way you sometimes couldn't understand my southern accent and would try to keep yourself from giggling at me when you thought I sounded funny.
At that time I just thought you needed me and I was happy to be needed by you. But now, I realize I need you. I need you to be Jincy's big sister and show her how to be an amazing young lady like YOU!
I am confident that you are going to continue becoming more intelligent, more caring, and more beautiful inside and out. And soon, Jincy will want to be just like you, her big sis.
Remember when you were wearing my high heel boots and you fell down the stairs and I caught you before you landed on the floor? That's the way I need you to be there for Jincy. I know you will be the person that can help her from falling flat on her face. Maybe she will need your advice for school, or friends, or how to do her hair or what to wear, or one day even advice on boys! (Don't tell your dad I said that part though!) She may even want to ask you advice about the most important thing in life, Jesus.
I just know she will need you and I want you to know that I'm thankful it will be YOU she will be looking to for help.
In return, I want there for you for anything and everything. I want you to know you can always count on me, come to me about anything, always trust me, and always know that I am thankful to have you as my bonus daughter. I no longer want to call you my step daughter. Instead, I want to call you my bonus daughter because that's what you are, a bonus to my life. My goal is to earn the title of Bonus Mom to you and be a blessing to your life. I know it's hard for you to live so far away from your dad. It's hard for us to be away from you too. Please keep us in that special heart of yours everyday no matter what and I promise to try my best to make it easier on you.
I keep thinking about when you saw me crying one day and asked me why I was sad. I told you my friend's dog was ran over by a car. Later that day when we were about to go see a movie you stopped and said "Can we pray for your friend who's dog died?" That was very thoughtful of you and it touched me. You have a beautiful heart and I don't think there is another girl in the world that could be a better big sister to Jincy. I would say we are lucky to have you but it's not luck, it's a gift from God. I want you to understand that no matter how tough a situation may be, God can always make it into something really good if we let him.
Nora, I love you, I'm thankful for you, and I need you. Happy Birthday my beautiful daughter!
Love Always,
Your bonus Mom, Angela
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